The Journey
Early Childhood
June 21st 1972
Mount Elgon Hospital, Kitale, Rift Valley, Kenya, East Africa.
Displays of my ADHD Symptoms at age 0-5
Looking back now it seems I have some common traits of Autism also which is not uncommon with ADHD. Known as a comorbidity.
Bedwetting - My Grandads favourite story about me was about how much Ribena I drank and how many of his mattresses I ruined due to bedwetting. He eventually resorted to wrapping plastic covers on them to avoid financial ruin. He used to tell this story to everyone he met including my wife when I introduced her to him! Ribena has an extremely high sugar content and this may have been me ‘dopamine scavenging’.
Avoidance of Brushing my teeth or Brushing my Hair - Yes. I know I am a dentist you don’t have to remind me. So I drank gallons of the worst possible thing for your teeth and avoided brushing yet I’ve always had excellent teeth and never had tooth decay. Although I did cause a fracture in a virgin tooth due to clenching a few years back. You will be glad to know I was a regular tooth brusher from starting school onwards but the hair, well that legacy continues.
Late Speech- I didn’t start talking till I was around 4 and a half years old. Everyone must have assumed I was naturally quiet and shy. I also think because of the number of children in the house and the absolute chaos and mischief that obviously accompanied this it wasn’t considered a problem.
Zoning Out- I was told I would zone out when watching tv or staring out of the window to the point that I would not hear someone calling out to me and had to be physically tapped on the shoulder to get my attention.
Craving Acceptance- I had to be loved to validate that I was being accepted. This seemed to have been something I did at an early age when I worked hard to get my cousins to love me.
The comfort of the colour red- This one is a strange one. I have always been drawn by this colour. My parents always told me I would choose red socks even when I was vey young. I don’t have a reason to explain this but I have always included this colour in everything I do. I still at age 51 only wear red socks, red trainers and cannot leave the house without my red wristbands on. It’s some form of comfort for me. Even all the logos I've made for all of my practices and companies must include red. I’m assuming this is an autistic/adhd trait.
Eating green chillies-I recently came across some research that showed that eating chillies stimulates dopamine release in the brain. I must have been self medicating as a child!
Education
1976-1990
Springwell Infant and Junior School and Heston Comprehensive School, Heston, Hounslow, Middlesex.
Displays of my ADHD Symptoms between the ages of 6-17
Looking back again there is probably an overlap with Autism
The Start of me Masking- Masking is the way someone with ADHD tries to adapt in a neurotypical world in order to appear “normal” and fit in. It is basically an ‘act’ to appear like everyone else. It takes time to master but you get better with time. You have no choice. I tended to observe people intensely. It’s a bit like those method actors who spend time with the people they are trying to portray and examine their words and expressions. I was constantly analysing other peoples behaviour and attempted to introduce it in my charade.
Rejection Sensitivity Dysmorphia (RSD)-I was particularly sensitive to criticism. It wasn’t a normal response. It could be the way someone answered me or looked at me. Even if they didn’t have any intention of being critical, I would interpret it differently and as an attack. I suppose I saw it as failure in the hard work I was putting into masking.
People with ADHD have extremely low self esteem and need constant validation that they are worthy to be here. The masking had to be tweaked every so often to make sure that challenges or criticisms were minimised. The strange thing is I am only now realising what I was doing back then. I thought everyone was ‘masking’. I thought they had just mastered it better than me, but I now realise they were just being themselves
Body Dysmorphia-As already mentioned I was lanky and geeky. With or without ADHD I was going to find it tough in a boisterous Comprehensive School. I remember once in class the boy behind me asked me to fold my ears in because he couldn’t see the blackboard. Monkey noises were frequently directed to me.
Avoiding scenarios that involve ‘small talk’ - For example hairdressers. I hated going to the hairdresser and still do and prefer to do it myself (as you can tell!). I hate making small talk and find it quite intrusive when somebody randomly approaches me to say something irrelevant. It’s not them, it’s obviously me but I just haven’t got the energy for this. However if it’s someone I’m comfortable with you cannot stop me from talking let alone get a word in edgeways.
Lack of Focus for mundane activities- I could never concentrate in class. I used to frequently zone out looking at something on the wall or outside. Mundane and repeat activities some of which are important in life never interested me as it wasn’t exciting enough (dopamine releasing). I couldn’t muster up the energy to start these type of activities. If it was something like handing in some work in a weeks time I would sit on it until the last minute. This is the same with bills. I need deadlines to create this sense of urgency.
Hyperfocus- If I found something novel and exciting to do I would hyper focus on it. I would forget to eat, drink or sleep. I have the ability to do a lot of work in a very short time frame if the task interests me.
Time blindness- This is when hours may pass when you are hyper fixated on a task. You lose all concept of time and many hours could pass without you releasing. Once again the interest in the activity had to be there.
Stimming- I would always unconsciously shake my leg when I’m sitting anywhere for long. I also tend to fidget all the time. My body just cannot keep still which is annoying for those around me. I have also always doodled in class and lectures as my body needs to keep doing something.
Photographic memory-ability to recall visually pages of text and images accurately and reproduce it on paper
1990-1996
Dental Student, Guy’s Dental Hospital, London Bridge, London
1993
The Colonnade, Guys Hospital. I crossed paths with the Most Beautiful Girl I had ever seen.
Displays of my ADHD Symptoms between aged 18-Present
Since we have now entered my adult years I will outline the full list of my ADHD behaviours up to present time
Overstimulation/Sensory Overload- The toilet was my escape when I was over stimulated in big group events. It was a form of recharging my battery. When I’m around people I am extremely chatty and engaging but my social battery runs out almost all of a sudden and without notice. I need the inner sanctum of the toilet to recharge.
Procrastinate to use the loo- While we are on the topic of the loo, I often set tasks for me to do before I pee even if i’m bursting. It gives me the motivation to achieve so many tasks in super quick time and the reward is the loo.
Inability to focus in lectures/cinemas/stimming- I can never sit for long in one place. This includes lectures and at the cinema. As far as I can remember I always ask for an end seat because of my need to take a walk or get way from the monotony of the environment. I will also fidget or shake my leg involuntarily as my body needs to be doing something all the time(stimming). My wife loves Bollywood movies but they are normally 3 hours long. My worst nightmare but because I love her I occasionally try and remain in the seat and keep still.
The need for subtitles and the rewind button when watching movies. Listening to songs on repeat.- I cannot watch movies without subtitles. I also have to constantly rewind scenes as my focus may get directed to something in the background of the scene or something in the room. I then redirect my focus back to the movie only to realise I missed what happened. I also tend to listen to the same songs all the time on repeat. I have listened to the same songs by Michael Jackson all my life. This is the same for television programmes which I put on and re watch over and over again. I think it maybe that I know what is going to happen so I can go in and out of it when my mind wonders without rewinding it.
Ability to read people and situation outcomes with high accuracy/ focus on other conversations-I have very good intuition. I can also walk into a room full of people and I would be able to assess and map positions almost immediately. I have the ability to hear someone else’s conversation a distance away whilst I’m supposed to be listening to someone in front of me. This only happens when people tell me long stories and take ages to get to the point. It’s like I have noise cancelling headphones with said person.
Interrupting People in Conversations/ Not listening- Anyone who knows me will get this. I can’t help it. I think it’s because I have something interesting to say but because I know I will forget in a few seconds I need to get it out before its lost forever. It’s the same for listening. Because I’m holding in this thing I want to say I focus on this alone and forget to listen to the other person.
Pre preparing conversations-If I am going to attend somewhere where I don’t know the people I would pre prepare questions to avoid awkward silences.
Ability to simplify tasks, skipping unnecessary steps- I am good at problem solving and can quickly reach a desired outcome that many people would take much longer to reach.
Multitasking and work well in emergency situations- I have spent most of my practicing life dealing with emergencies. I work well under these conditions and find it stimulating and achieve excellent outcomes.
Need for routine and structure -Having an extremely rigid routine reduces my symptoms and makes me more productive and less prone to procrastination.
Exceptional Pattern recognition skills- I can see patterns almost instantaneously in things that nobody else can.
Postural Sway-I am very clumsy and accident prone. I have poor balance and I’m constantly walking into things. I wake up with numerous bruises on me because I have walked into several things during the night on the way to the loo.
Dislike of afternoon appointments- I like to always have morning appointments. if it’s an appointment in the afternoon my whole day is wasted in anticipation of that appointment. I cannot do anything productive until its finished.
Being extra early for everything- People with ADHD have poor time keeping. They are normally always late or too early. I come into the ‘too early’ category. On average I am around 2 hours earlier than expected for things. For example I start work at 111 at 8am. I set my alarm for 4am. I’m ready by 5am and leave for work. I’nm there at 6am. There is no need for me being this early but I have always got anxious if I’mm not somewhere well before I’m expected.
No patience when queuing up-I hate queues. I will do anything to avoid them. When my kids were younger I used to love taking them to Chessington World of Adventures. We had the Merlin Card which gave unlimited access to the park and it was literally 15 mins away from our house. I used to wake the kids up early in the morning and get them to the park 20 miutes before it opened. When the gates opened we jumped from one ride to the next with no queues. It was heaven. There is no way I could queue up for an hour for a 2 minute ride. That would be torture.
Walk into the room without knowing why/ Forgetting where I put something- I frequently go into a room in the house because of a reason and then once I’m in there I forget why I went in. I will stand in there for a few minutes to see if it comes to me. Sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't. It is very frustrating. I frequently misplace things. I would be sure I left something somewhere literally a few seconds ago and then when I go back it’s disappeared. It’s like someone is playing hide and seek with my things.
Task interruption by something on the way-Frequently I would have some important task to complete and go to get something from say my kids bedroom. If her room is a mess which it inevitably is I would get distracted by this and then spend the next couple of hours cleaning it. Now this wouldn’t just be a normal clean it would be a deep clean finished with a lit aromatic candle. I would have then have forgotten about the important task I was supposed to do.
Doom Piling- I love having the whole house immaculate and ordered but when it comes to my man cave there are different rules. All my clothes are in piles. Only I know what pile is what. It looks extremely disorganised but it works for me.
Sensory issues-I suffer with a lot of sensory issues. I cannot tolerate ‘white’ light ( It actually makes me feel sick). I try and ensure ‘warm’ lighting is installed as much as possible. I also can only wear certain materials. My pet hates are ‘noisy eaters’ especially crunchy eaters. I literally have to leave the room if anyone near me starts eating crisps. Noise Cancelling headphones have been a life saver. I cannot live without them anymore.
intolerance of slow walkers- I cannot tolerate slow walkers in front of me. For some reason it makes me anxious. I need to accelerate past them as soon as possible. I also find it anxiety inducing when some one is walking very close behind me. if I walk faster and then they do too that makes me even more anxious. I then have to stop and let them pass. I then feel relieved and continue at my comfortable pace.
Lack of eye contact with people- I find it hard making eye contact with people. I become conscious of this and when I do attempt it I question myself… How long should I do it for?….Do I look creepy?…. Do I blink now?… it is all so much hard work for me.
I have many many more behaviours to add but my ADHD has made me lose interest in this section because I’ve spent too long on it but I will be back to complete it soon.
Employment
1996-1997
House Officer, Oral and Maxillofacial Surgery, The Royal London Hospital, Whitechapel, London
The Unleashing of The Creative Side Began 2001
Practice 1 - 2001
SK Dental Hounslow, London
Our First Dental Practice.
My wife’s initials before and after marriage were S.K. as was mine. We named it SK Dental. It was the oldest practice in Hounslow and was established in the 1930’s. Wasn’t as sexy as the names of the subsequent practices but for us this was our bread and butter practice that allowed us to achieve so much in life. It had many owners and many relocated their patients to other sites. We inherited around 500 patients from the previous owner. By the time we sold it in 2016 we had around 20,000 patients purely through word of mouth recommendations.
I relocated this practice to a bigger site in 2014.
Practice 2 - 2004
The New York Dental Office, Brentford, London
Our Second Dental Practice
I bought this building in 2002. It took a lot of time getting planning permission for dental use. Eventually I received the permission and went all out on design and the name. We affectionately called it NYDO for short. You can read the full story of this award winning practice below.
I sold it in 2007.
Practice 3 - 2007
The New York Dental Office 2, Surbiton, Surrey
Our Third Dental Practice
This was another building we acquired and set up a practice. We named it NYDO2. You can see some pictures below.
I sold it in 2014.
Practice 4 - 2014
SK Dental 2, Hounslow, London
Our Fourth Practice
Due to the rapid growth of SK dental we needed a bigger premises. We relocated down the road to this large shopfront. This was one of my favourite designs. See some of the pictures below.
We sold it in 2016.
Practice 5 - 2020
smile, Kingston, Surrey
Our Fifth Dental Practice
I acquired this property to make a studio and office for myself. It is only around 350sq ft. The temptation to make a dental practice was always there but it was too small. My dopamine hunting brain loves a challenge. We somehow managed to make quite possibly the smallest dental practice ever.
See pictures below.
We sold it in 2022.
2017
The Met Film School, Ealing Film Studios, London
Part Time Film Student
This was an evening part time short course at the Met Film School which is at the iconic Ealing Film Studios. I loved it. I met other adults who were not dentists and had the same passion for film as I did. I found it so comfortable with them and I was doing what I always dreamed of doing. I was still practicing as a dentist at this time which meant I was always thinking about work. Dentistry is a profession where you can never take a break. There will always be something that crops up especially if you own a practice.However I enjoyed this course tremendously and we all had to make a short movie at the end.Me being me likes to do everything by myself so I didn’t use the videographers, lighting people etc that were available to us.I was elated when my short movie won several International Short Movie Awards and was shown at the Everyman Cinema in Esher.
You can watch it below.
2018
The BDJ Magazine Cover Pages
Photographer
I was experimenting with my macro lens one day in the surgery and took a shot of the diamond bur (drill). I thought it was pretty good and sent it the British Dental Journal for their consideration to use on their cover page. A few weeks later the design board wrote back to say they loved it and if I could do 10 more similar shots. You know me by now. This was a challenge and a hardcore dopamine fix. This is what I thrive on. I did 15 shots and these are the ones that made the covers. To have my photography on the covers of this iconic and well respected scientific journal has been one of my greatest photographic achievements.
2019
The Dental Town UK Magazine Covers
Photographer
The very friendly team at the forward thinking Dental Town UK Magazine asked me to do a few cover shots. They gave me a brief and allowed me full creative licence to do whatever I wanted. I had so much fun doing some of these. I dressed up for two of the shots and used a self timer. Note that ‘I’m masking’. I was also given the huge privilege to devise a cover to reflect the passing of a much loved colleague and relative Dr Anoop Maini. He had achieved legend status in the dental world and was one of the most passionate dentists I have ever come across. He is still missed.
2016 - Present
NHS Dental 111 Smile Triage, London
Clinical Lead
I joined Smile Dental Triage in 2016 as Clinical Lead. We triage all the NHS 111 Dental Emergencies that come through for London.
When the pandemic arrived on our shores dental practices were forced to close almost overnight. They ended up being closed for three months.
All of a sudden we were responsible to triage every single dental emergency for London. This was not only for NHS patients but ‘all’ patients in London with dental pain. We had to adapt almost immediately. Being the Clinical Lead was a huge responsibility during this time. However with my ADHD and its plus points of being calm in emergency situations and the ability to problem solve under pressure together with the hard work of the entire team we did remarkably well. The camaraderie was heart warming.
We worked tirelessly throughout the lockdown. I was there almost everyday as were the management team. It still remains a 24 hr 365 days a year service and is still exceptionally busy. During my time here I have personally taken well over 25,000 emergency calls. The Management team I work with and the dental nurses taking calls are exceptional and it’s a pleasure and an honour to be part of this very important and valuable service.